By Pria Makanda
Finding the right man as your life partner is a myth, just like spotting a Ferrari in the city traffic. But I would rather be happy with my Kodava Kinna (boy) who would take me on long drives to Kodagu in a Gypsy jeep.
Asking all those beautiful young ladies reading this write-up: “Have you ever come across a stunning guy at a wedding or any function and wished he was your man?” Yes, and I guess there is nothing wrong in admitting it, because we girls, no matter how strong and independent, would love to get the best man for our life partners!
The greatest thing I have come across in Coorg weddings is the chance to show off our dancing skills during the Kodava Valagat (dance). Maybe that is when we all dance the best too, because we know people are on the lookout for the smartest person in the crowd.
Being a Kodavathi, it gives me pride to say that men from Coorg are certainly true warriors, who are really gutsy and do not fear anything. A Kodava Kinna is capable of surviving anywhere – be it as a planter who can take care of a 100 acre estate, or as a classy employee in a city or in the Army or Air Force. The attire of Kupya (black robe) with the Piche Kathi (knife) as a symbol of bravery stands unique to every Kodava. So having said this, would I not love to marry a Kodava Kinna?
I wish to note the freedom given to the Kodava youth in their personal upbringing and family lifestyle. True that most guys drink in our community, but they also know how to handle themselves well when drunk. They are taught how to respect elders and ancestral traditions which I adore.
The ideal man is never there but for me my man should be a wonderful human being, because caste or religion doesn’t matter in the end. I would like to have him as my best friend. He should have a good sense of humor and understanding, because to be a best friend you need to know your partner inside out.
It is said that we can never understand anyone unless we are in the shoes of that person. But, as far as I am concerned, the best self-made man will be the one to hold my hand in marriage.